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Sounds Like A You Problem
Everyone owes you something.
Fightmilk The Band
January 21, 2026
Happy new year! It’s nearly February, it’s fine.
TODAY we’ve put a new song out.
It’s called Sounds Like A You Problem.
Artwork by Healey
He’s not a violent man
He’s lifting weights
To see his father
I blend his protein shakes
We keep rewinding
To the same old scene
It sounds like a you problem
Sleeping on eggshells
I know too much
Behind your locked door
Man on the run
And I’m sorry you’re sad
I guess it’s too bad
But that’s how you get what you want
It sounds like a you problem
And everyone owes you something
A few years ago I’d ended up in a relationship where everything I said or did was under intense scrutiny, all the time. I couldn’t seem to do anything without exacerbating this person’s bad mood. The worst part was that I was being repeatedly told that I was responsible for everything wrong in this person’s life, whilst also being told I was the only one who could fix it.
It feels a bit crass to talk about my own history so much but I’m a confessional writer and at times an oversharer. And this is a dynamic I see everywhere, all the time. The unarmed woman being shot at point blank range in her own car by a man who said later that he ‘felt threatened’ by her. The woman who returns to an abusive relationship because she’s made to believe she can change someone else’s behaviour. The men who belittle, hurt, and kill women, because of a perceived loneliness epidemic, or a mental health crisis, or something else that has ended up our responsibility to solve.
This person used to tell me ‘at least I’m not violent’, and I was grateful.
The song is out now thanks to the wonderful support of Fika Recordings and INH Records. It was recorded by Rich Mandell and mastered by Bob Cooper. Enjoy ❤️